Comments on: my blue journey http://www.melbournegirl.net/2008/10/10/my-blue-journey/ the life and times of a girl in melbourne Wed, 25 Nov 2009 04:00:24 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: gener8or http://www.melbournegirl.net/2008/10/10/my-blue-journey/comment-page-1/#comment-14 gener8or Mon, 27 Oct 2008 06:59:35 +0000 http://www.melbournegirl.net/?p=46#comment-14 I haven't visited your website/s for a few weeks and I'm sorry I hadn't. That was such a raw and honest piece of writing Melbournegirl and thank you for having the courage to post it. I have had a few self realizations this year, despite thinking I had a good handle on who I was and what I was capable of. I guess my secret to still being in the land of the living is that I had the epiphany (helped along through counseling) that I lacked gratefulness and that I was unaware that I actually could choose to be happy. Gratefulness- that while I might feel alone when going through my shit, as long as I could say that I was a good person and a good friend, then I was grateful for my journey, however shit it was along the way. Grateful also for the little loves that you come across every day- they may not be from the things you really desire, like a partner or family, but the unexpected smiles you see on the street or the train or the simple, random txts from a friend. You also have to know that there's a universal law that somewhere, someone is thinking of you and thinks you're fucking awesome. You may never meet them again or meet them at all. Sometimes I'll make a choice and wonder if my mystical No 1 Fan would approve. They always would. Lastly, and I hate saying this because it always comes across as almost a little dismissive to the recipient's problems- but everyone has a choice to be happy. I almost struggle to type it, because fuck knows I've argued often enough that I'm hardwired to be bloody miserable- I mean Morrissey-level miserable- but there it is. And it's a hard struggle to make that choice to be happy, a struggle that some of us need to make every day. The first step is that you have to *want* to be happy. Once again good on you Melbournegirl, I'm a fan. Jase I haven’t visited your website/s for a few weeks and I’m sorry I hadn’t. That was such a raw and honest piece of writing Melbournegirl and thank you for having the courage to post it.

I have had a few self realizations this year, despite thinking I had a good handle on who I was and what I was capable of. I guess my secret to still being in the land of the living is that I had the epiphany (helped along through counseling) that I lacked gratefulness and that I was unaware that I actually could choose to be happy.

Gratefulness- that while I might feel alone when going through my shit, as long as I could say that I was a good person and a good friend, then I was grateful for my journey, however shit it was along the way. Grateful also for the little loves that you come across every day- they may not be from the things you really desire, like a partner or family, but the unexpected smiles you see on the street or the train or the simple, random txts from a friend.

You also have to know that there’s a universal law that somewhere, someone is thinking of you and thinks you’re fucking awesome. You may never meet them again or meet them at all. Sometimes I’ll make a choice and wonder if my mystical No 1 Fan would approve. They always would.

Lastly, and I hate saying this because it always comes across as almost a little dismissive to the recipient’s problems- but everyone has a choice to be happy. I almost struggle to type it, because fuck knows I’ve argued often enough that I’m hardwired to be bloody miserable- I mean Morrissey-level miserable- but there it is. And it’s a hard struggle to make that choice to be happy, a struggle that some of us need to make every day. The first step is that you have to *want* to be happy.

Once again good on you Melbournegirl, I’m a fan.

Jase

]]> By: Elana Bowman http://www.melbournegirl.net/2008/10/10/my-blue-journey/comment-page-1/#comment-13 Elana Bowman Mon, 27 Oct 2008 05:06:45 +0000 http://www.melbournegirl.net/?p=46#comment-13 I bitch and moan and complain about my life and it's you who makes me feel humble. You have gone through a LOT Maria. Bullying at school, death of a parent, a terrible boyfriend who really hurt you ... you have no idea how strong you are ... it is apparent in the way you write and express yourself in words and also how you managed to get through so much. I think that blogging and writing is a great way to get all of this out and one day when you look back or rather read back hopefully you will see your own strengths and how you managed to find your answers. I've had my blog since I opened and closed a second hand bookshop and it has become a great writing journey for me and great to look back at the lessons and the messages in there. Keep blogging and congrats on getting this out. You are not alone and you are stronger than you think you are. I bitch and moan and complain about my life and it’s you who makes me feel humble.
You have gone through a LOT Maria. Bullying at school, death of a parent, a terrible boyfriend who really hurt you … you have no idea how strong you are … it is apparent in the way you write and express yourself in words and also how you managed to get through so much.
I think that blogging and writing is a great way to get all of this out and one day when you look back or rather read back hopefully you will see your own strengths and how you managed to find your answers.
I’ve had my blog since I opened and closed a second hand bookshop and it has become a great writing journey for me and great to look back at the lessons and the messages in there.
Keep blogging and congrats on getting this out. You are not alone and you are stronger than you think you are.

]]> By: Owen Hodda http://www.melbournegirl.net/2008/10/10/my-blue-journey/comment-page-1/#comment-12 Owen Hodda Fri, 10 Oct 2008 01:19:58 +0000 http://www.melbournegirl.net/?p=46#comment-12 Wow. Thank you so much for sharing that with everyone (even if it did mean I had to sneak away from my desk for a tearie). It must have taken a lot of courage to put that online, and as fucked up as it sounds, knowing that other people struggle this much sometimes reminds me that we are not alone. Thanks again for speaking out. You did what I struggle to do, and I truly hope that it helps. Owen Wow. Thank you so much for sharing that with everyone (even if it did mean I had to sneak away from my desk for a tearie). It must have taken a lot of courage to put that online, and as fucked up as it sounds, knowing that other people struggle this much sometimes reminds me that we are not alone.
Thanks again for speaking out. You did what I struggle to do, and I truly hope that it helps.

Owen

]]> By: Riayn http://www.melbournegirl.net/2008/10/10/my-blue-journey/comment-page-1/#comment-11 Riayn Fri, 10 Oct 2008 01:05:54 +0000 http://www.melbournegirl.net/?p=46#comment-11 Thank you for having the courage to share your life story. I hope that someone who is in the same situation are you were in can read it and find the courage to seek help. Thank you for having the courage to share your life story. I hope that someone who is in the same situation are you were in can read it and find the courage to seek help.

]]> By: Gavin Heaton http://www.melbournegirl.net/2008/10/10/my-blue-journey/comment-page-1/#comment-10 Gavin Heaton Fri, 10 Oct 2008 01:00:57 +0000 http://www.melbournegirl.net/?p=46#comment-10 How courageous you are, Maria! Thanks for sharing such a personal experience. How courageous you are, Maria! Thanks for sharing such a personal experience.

]]> By: Warwick Rendell http://www.melbournegirl.net/2008/10/10/my-blue-journey/comment-page-1/#comment-9 Warwick Rendell Fri, 10 Oct 2008 00:58:31 +0000 http://www.melbournegirl.net/?p=46#comment-9 I appreciate your honesty here. I believe that we who are speaking up will contribute to stripping away the stigma that exists around mental health. I appreciate your honesty here. I believe that we who are speaking up will contribute to stripping away the stigma that exists around mental health.

]]> By: Jim Vrckovski http://www.melbournegirl.net/2008/10/10/my-blue-journey/comment-page-1/#comment-8 Jim Vrckovski Thu, 09 Oct 2008 23:45:11 +0000 http://www.melbournegirl.net/?p=46#comment-8 Hi M, you are very brave to share your story. I think that your story is something that happens to lots of people but they never hare it. Hi M, you are very brave to share your story. I think that your story is something that happens to lots of people but they never hare it.

]]> By: Michael Specht http://www.melbournegirl.net/2008/10/10/my-blue-journey/comment-page-1/#comment-7 Michael Specht Thu, 09 Oct 2008 22:32:39 +0000 http://www.melbournegirl.net/?p=46#comment-7 An amazing post, you have been through so much. Thanks for your support of blue day 2008. An amazing post, you have been through so much. Thanks for your support of blue day 2008.

]]> By: Mick Leyden http://www.melbournegirl.net/2008/10/10/my-blue-journey/comment-page-1/#comment-6 Mick Leyden Thu, 09 Oct 2008 21:16:13 +0000 http://www.melbournegirl.net/?p=46#comment-6 Hi Maria, Thank you for writing that wonderful post. I'm sure it was terrifying to press the publish button but it is great to tell your story, hopefully other people who feel the same way will read it and go and find someone to talk to. I'll pass it on to Ros subject of my #Blueday post. :-) mick Hi Maria,

Thank you for writing that wonderful post. I’m sure it was terrifying to press the publish button but it is great to tell your story, hopefully other people who feel the same way will read it and go and find someone to talk to.

I’ll pass it on to Ros subject of my #Blueday post. :-)

mick

]]> By: rmeredit http://www.melbournegirl.net/2008/10/10/my-blue-journey/comment-page-1/#comment-5 rmeredit Thu, 09 Oct 2008 20:43:02 +0000 http://www.melbournegirl.net/?p=46#comment-5 Phwee. I hope this doesn't come off as sounding twee or condescending or whatever. For all the fluff that goes on over Twitter, it's fun and all, but I'm glad I stumbled across your feed, and then this blog. I'm glad you wrote this post and I got a chance to read it. Screw the arseholes that bully you or mock you publicly. A parody website about someone who looks after their sick parents? Fuck em. For what it's worth, I'm glad you got help and made it past 25. Phwee. I hope this doesn’t come off as sounding twee or condescending or whatever. For all the fluff that goes on over Twitter, it’s fun and all, but I’m glad I stumbled across your feed, and then this blog. I’m glad you wrote this post and I got a chance to read it.

Screw the arseholes that bully you or mock you publicly. A parody website about someone who looks after their sick parents? Fuck em.

For what it’s worth, I’m glad you got help and made it past 25.

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